Dealing with toddler tantrums is something every mom and dad will inevitably face when their child is finally able to walk and explore his or her immediate surroundings and the small world that is their neighborhood, town or city. Unfortunately, as their world slowly expands, the more they will see things that they like or don’t like. Because they are unable to express themselves yet, they show their anger and frustrations by throwing temper tantrums.
Tantrums are especially problematic for parents when they occur in public places. If they don’t buy a toy or food that their toddler likes, he or she will start crying, yelling, screaming, kicking, hitting, or biting. Some kids will sit or lie down on the floor or ground and lash out at anyone who tries to move them.
Sadly, scolding, spanking and corner times are not effective since the toddler is too young to understand that these forms of punishment for their bad behavior.
Toddler Tantrums Tips
Let us take a look at some tips that will help you to deal with toddler tantrums…
If your toddler is the type who throws tantrums if you don’t buy them what they want, it is recommended that you observe them closely for any signs that they are interested in something and then quickly divert their attention. For example, if you notice your toddler staring or reaching for a toy, take them by the hand and lead them somewhere else. Grab their attention at the same time by saying “Would you look at that pretty balloon?”, “Would you like some ice cream?”, or “Let’s play in the playground.”
When your child starts throwing a tantrum, always keep calm. Do not aggravate the situation by losing your temper as well and shouting or spanking them. At first, you can just ignore your child. If they notice that they are not getting your attention, they will stop on their own. If they don’t stop crying, approach your toddler slowly and say in a low but firm tone, “STOP!” or “DON’T CRY!” The use of a low speaking voice will force your child to stop making a ruckus, so that he or she can hear what you are telling them.
Once they have quieted down, take them aside and explain to them that what they are doing is wrong. It is important to impress upon them that there are rules that they have to follow or else they will have to face the consequences of their actions.
Of course, when you warn your child of negative consequences for bad behaviors, make sure that you follow through. It can be a short time-out or loss of certain privileges, like reduced playtime or no dessert for dinner.
If you discipline your toddler for tantrums and other bad behaviors, you should also learn to praise them when they are good. Let us say that they were well-behaved at home or they did not throw any tantrums while you were out shopping, tell them “You’re growing up” or “You behaved like a big boy.” Toddlers will remember how you have praised them and will continue to be on their best behavior.
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